Practice Gratitude

Practice Gratitude

After coaching many clients I have started realizing how rampant negative thought patterns and  “barely making it by mentality” have become.

A typical day for many people stuck in a negative pattern of thinking (which happens to all of us):

The alarm sounds, you can’t believe it. It feels like you’ve barely slept at all, you’re anything but rested. You try to find something to look forward to that will help pull you out of bed and get you up on your feet and ready to start your day! All you can think about though is how you don’t have enough time to yourself before work starts or how you wish you would have gone to bed earlier so you were more rested.

It feels like there is nothing to look forward too. While you sit and contemplate your day you subconsciously decide to open up your facebook or instagram app to distract yourself for just a just a split second before being forced to get on with your day. Instantly, you’re bombarded images of people who are happier than you, more successful, enjoying life more than you… or so it seems.

One of the images triggers a jealous response inside your mind… you begin asking yourself why it is that “so and so” has such an amazing job that allows them to take time off and travel, why you don’t I get more time off like they do? Or why is it “so and so” just a bought a new car why don’t I have a beautiful new car like that person? And the list of thoughts continue.

Maybe someone you see posts yet another picture of their 6 pack! You find yourself wondering why you don’t have a six pack? Instantly you start to resent your body, Maybe it is another business that is thriving and triggers a thought of why you business is not thriving?  Now you’re looking for someone/something to blame to help lift the feelings of discontent off of your shoulders.

Now your day starts with resentment, frustration and feeling like you lack something that everyone else appears to have.

Before you know it these feelings set in and yet another morning has started with you operating from a place of reactivity towards to the world and feelings of gratitude or appreciation for who you are and what you have are the furthest thoughts from your mind.

Let me ask, do you think this is how ultra successful people start their day? In a completely reactive and ungrateful state? Do you think they start their day by diving into the lives of other people and looking at what other people are doing while feeling depressed about their own lives?

H%ll No!

Successful people guard their mental and emotional energy like gold. They start each morning grateful with laser focus on what aspects of their life are serving them and not serving them.  They get rid of every negative thought, pattern, habit, person or situation that is not serving them. They focus their attention on things that are serving them and adding value, richness and meaningfulness to their lives.

Successful people are not reactive they are focused.

Here is an exercise that has had not only had a  profound impact on my life, but also on the likes of hollywood stars, professional athletes, CEO’s of million/billion dollar companies.  The original copy is from Tony Robbins. I have modified it by adding three questions to ask yourself before bed each night. The first 7 questions are from Tony Robbins.

I challenge everyone who reads this to commit to it for the next 30 days and monitor the profound impact it has on them. 

Or you can stay reactive. It’s your choice.

We’ll be posting about it each week on the Maverick instagram account to help support you in this process and as a way to check in or share how you’re doing. You can follow us here @maverick_strength to follow along, make sure to tag your posts #maverickgratitudechallenge so we can follow your journey too!

Here’s the challenge:

As you wake up, answer these 7 questions first thing in the morning, before checking your phone for anything. It might be helpful to also start a journal to help you document your experience over the next 30 days. 

1.What am I happy about in my life now?

What about that makes me happy?

How does that make me feel?

2. What am I excited about in my life now?

What about that makes me excited?

How does that make me feel?

If you’re not so excited about anything in your life right now, what *could* make you excited?  How would that make you feel?

3. What am I proud about in my life now?

What about that makes me proud?

How does that make me feel?

If you’re not so proud about anything in your life right now, what *could* make you proud?  How would that make you feel?

4. What am I grateful about in my life now?

What about that makes me grateful?

How does that make me feel?

If you’re not so grateful about anything in your life right now, what *could* make you grateful? How would that make you feel?

5. What am I enjoying in my life right now?

What about that do I enjoy?

How does that make me feel?

If you’re not enjoying anything in your life right now, what *could* you enjoy?  How would that make you feel?

6. What am I committed to in my life right now?

What about that makes me committed?

How does that make me feel?

If you’re not so committed to anything in your life right now, what *could* you be committed to? How would that make you feel?

7. Who do I love? Who loves me?

What about that makes me loving?

How does that make me feel?

Before going to bed or setting your alarm ask yourself these 3 powerful questions

1. What did I give today?

2. What did I learn today?

3. How has today added to the quality of my life?

If you’re not feeling your feelings, you’re doing it wrong. In order to do this it requires you to sit quietly with yourself, tune into what is happening in your body and in your mind. Some answers and feelings may come quickly, others make be more challenging to understand and name. All you need to do is try your best, that’s all each of us can ever do. The act of sitting with and contemplating these questions alone will create space for big changes in the way you think, the way you start your day and the way you interact with each moment thereafter. 

If you’re not able to summon your emotions, you’ll improve with practice if you really get mindful while you do it and actually step into the practice of mastering your emotions.  Pay attention to what works, what doesn’t, and what you learn from the process.

Remember that thoughts shape your emotions, and emotions shape your thoughts, and this is what shapes your actions. By changing the questions you’re asking yourself, you change your thoughts, you change your emotions/reactions and therefore change your actions.

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